OK, I just got off the phone with a man who gave me an ultimatum, do all men do that?

I called a man who gave me his # a couple of weeks ago to tell him I was ready to date. I invited him to my house and at the last minute I called him and chickened out, even once when he was at my door. I told him I had other plans, this has happened twice between us, I got cold feet. I was into another man who did nothing but provoke me to meet other men. The one I have been flaking on is a fireman and co-owns a gym. He asked me to go there to work out for free so I did on days he was not there, his friends told him I was talking to other guys which is not true. When I worked out they approached me to chat. So he showed up at my house and went off on me, grabbed me by the arm and pulled me out of my house, I thought it was a masculine thing to do. We drove and parked and talked, he was a gentleman. He called me tonight and said if I don't kiss him this weekend or show him that I care he is going to give up on me and that I should know that he won't wait for me. What should I do?